This is a problem with many women in the Western world and especially in the US (no disrespect to any of your ladies, OK guys!). Many, but not all, want the man to take care of everything and do all the work and this is mostly true when it comes to sex.
Any one who has had sex with Brazilian, African, Latino, Italian, French (exceptions for Europe) or Asian women (and I have) will tell you how much better it is..This is generally speaking of course!