TOPIC: Sex, Porn, & Arousal Addiction... are you an addict? Lets break the addiction!

jackalot119 wrote: I have tried to quit before but I cant.

Actually you can. And if you don\'t, this vicious cycle will continue to take a toll on you, your sex life, and your perception of size. The guys in porn are not only bigger than average, they take advantage of camera angles to get as much size on the screen as possible.

Instead of quitting cold turkey, take a step-by-step approach like instead of \"once a day,\" try \"once a week.\" Then graduate to \"once a month,\" and so on. And if you need release but don\'t have access to sex, you can always pull up something soft core (heck, even a lingerie catalog) or attempt masturbation with use of imagination alone... you\'d be surprised how much easier it is when you\'ve been off porn for a while.

Good advice SO.

Thanks soooo much guys for your support in this!

I was watching \"My strange addiction\" yesterday and all I could think of was that I could very well be on that show. It is THAT much of a problem. Like I have said it is not so much a pure porn addiction for me... as it is an sex and arousal addiction.

My whole life revolves around sex or being turned on. I literally spend 80% of my day thinking about sex, getting sex, texting girls to set up dates (for future sex), my Dick, its size, do I want more? it would be hot to have more. Would more be too much? etc. I mean... even at work I will be thinking about my Dick, or when I go to the washroom (its a one person in there at a time and you lock the door type washroom), I will play with myself to get a semi and look at it from all the different angles wondering if just one more PMMA round would be the ticket to happiness. And this is literally in the middle of work... or during class I would sit there, not think at all about what I am being taught. All I would think about is when I am going to have sex next.

The porn only really comes into play when I am at home bored, thinking about sex and don\'t have someone lined up to come over... or before bed and waking up if someone doesnt spend the night. Or I watch HUGE Dick porn because only really dicks bigger than mine or the same size turn me on anymore... and strangly motivates me to want more. I watch a lot of Shane Diesel, Ramone from bangbros, Billy Glide and Shorty Mac.

Even last week, after committing to this... I had sex with 4 different girls... at least I cut out porn... Like S.O. said, one step at a time.

I want to cut down on the sex as well... even though it doesn\'t sound like a problem (a fantasy for most dudes even). It really is a problem. I want intimacy, but I also want love and to feel like I am in love again. I haven\'t had that for a really long time.

And for those of you who were following my blog... yes I have nailed some outright hotties... but god I have nailed some ugly ass chicks as well. My standards are seriously 6.5+ when I am sober and 6.0+ when I am drunk. As long as she isn\'t fat (145 lbs +)... I would probably fuck her. Sad but true.

All this I want to change... but I have seriously thought this way since 16 (about my Dick and PE) and have had stupid amounts of sex since I was 21 (I am now 24).

If this way of thinking doesn\'t change soon I will go get therapy... I know the way I think is NOT normal. I am not a productive person at all.

I mean how does a person who thinks this way even attempt at an honest relationship? ^ I would pretty much have to find a nymphomaniac who is a 10+ (Hot ass girl, who is always down to fuck) to be happy.

Skeptical One wrote:

jackalot119 wrote: I have tried to quit before but I cant.

Actually you can. And if you don\'t, this vicious cycle will continue to take a toll on you, your sex life, and your perception of size. The guys in porn are not only bigger than average, they take advantage of camera angles to get as much size on the screen as possible.

Instead of quitting cold turkey, take a step-by-step approach like instead of \"once a day,\" try \"once a week.\" Then graduate to \"once a month,\" and so on. And if you need release but don\'t have access to sex, you can always pull up something soft core (heck, even a lingerie catalog) or attempt masturbation with use of imagination alone... you\'d be surprised how much easier it is when you\'ve been off porn for a while.

I agree with everything S.O. said. Cold-turkey isn\'t the best approach.

The using alternate materials (like non-porn mags) is actually a decent idea. I bet using your imagination would be a lot better for your brain than the hardcore stuff.

Also as far as the guys in porn are bigger... so I don\'t try. Type thinking.

One thing that I have learned from all my years of gaining length and Girth is that... there is always someone bigger out there. Its just the way it is. I have gained a good amount of length and a crazy amount of Girth through all my PE career and I am still not happy with my size.

I think focusing on getting really good at sex, like technique, being sexy and just a stud in bed will trump size any day. Focus on that with girls rather than comparing your size to any of their past and future lovers.

I think you should watch the movie \" Diary of a nymphomanic\" . It\'s in Netflix.
Let us know your thoughts after you watch it. And whether it reminded you of you.

^ I will watch it tonight and let you know how I feel tomorrow

It is written from a girl\'s perspective, but I think the essence is similar to what you described about yourself. It should be interesting to hear from you once you\'ve watched it.

Watched the first 15 min... it was in subtitles and romanticized the whole idea of nymphomania so much that I couldn\'t stand it.

To me its not at all about feeling all sexually charged in some sort of pleasure universe with energy and sensing touch on skin etc... its simply fucking and conquering a girl. Sometimes once I get my initial excitement of having sex with someone new out of the way... I can literally get bored of sex right in the middle of it. Especially if a condom is involved. I have plenty of encounters where I simply don\'t cum. Plus I\'m super visually charged... if its pitch black in the room because the girl is self conscious I have trouble getting Erect (because I can\'t see anything). Plus if we are fucking and her pussy is gross looking (ie a big meaty vag... I hate that) I have a horrible time.

I think that\'s part of the reason I like PMMA so much... it made me bigger and it turns me on more actually seeing the act look like porn.

It\'s the thrill of the chase and the idea that I have conquered someone new that gets me going. Not the whole romanticized bullshit about sensations and energy and universe... I think a woman had to have wrote that movie.

The movie probably picks up and gets into more depth but I just couldn\'t stomach it right now. Not in the right mood for that.

Hey Sizemic I can relate about the porn addiction. I had been right on the verge of thinking I had a problem (I.E. Masturbate to it every day and sometimes more than once) and then when I saw your post I said,\"That\'s me.\" Doing this has been taking away from my time I should be using to build relationships with real people not isolating myself from them. I think until yesterday I thought porn addiction was just a bunch of made up nonsense, but it\'s real. I am still wondering about the concentration piece but I can say I absolutely have a concentration problem. I am going to work at cutting porn out of my life, I don\'t think it was the way I was meant to live.

I think I\'m experiencing similar issues right now, not exactly pure porn addiction, but similar, I\'m not going to get super detaily because it involves my same-sex sex life and I don\'t need to hit you guys over the head with it unnecessary.

Basically, even with my pre R1 PMMA size I was nicely above average size and had zero issues in high school or college pleasing women and or feeling inadequate or unconfident about my size, and often complemented on my length. After R1, it was a such a big upgrade in Girth that my confidence was over the roof and I went wild and had a good time with girls and my new size, and looking back a lot of it would of been impossible without the great R1 results. At the same time, any of my same-sex hookups I was always the biggest, and often considerably. Doing stints in Asia didn\'t really help this as often the size difference was drastic and there were definite elements of alpha male mentality and my sexual worth being linked to my Cock size.

So, in order words the almost magical increase of Girth a long with the resulting sluttiness (getting out of a long relationship) allowed me to be a bit more obsessed with my Dick and my size issues, which is definitely something I didn\'t really want as I\'m probably too obsessed to begin as I\'ve been in the PE community for like 6+ years no, since I was like 17. I did think I was finally forgetting to care about size and just starting to enjoy my new studliness when I started Hanging out with a new guy friend who has now become my boyfriend. Hes the first guy I\'ve ever hooked up with who has been bigger than me, and aesthetically its a big difference in my eyes. He doesn\'t care at all and loves mine, and I think even erroneously thinks mine is thicker (its not, he is 6.1\" Girth to my 5.7\" but as hes not Dick obsessed I don\'t think he really has noticed) , but basically I can\'t get good erections at all as I think I\'m ego-hurt at not being the alpha. We\'re both Bi and frequently share stories and I also get ego-hurt when I hear or think about his bigger Cock fucking girls. This doesn\'t completely feed into sexual dominance or submissiveness or sex roles, top, bottom etc, as we don\'t really do that, so I won\'t burden you guys.

Its something I need to deal with, as obviously I am statistically not huge and shouldn\'t delude myself into thinking im at the definite top of the ladder of Dick size, and I should be comfortable at my above average level. It just makes it a bit harder when a lot of my porn has two dicks in it, and is even more size focused, and when hooking up you\'re not comparing yourself with non-present exs or competition but the person whos there and you\'re having sex with. But in the end, I know that even in the gay world its not just defined by a scale of Dick size and thats it. I can think rational thoughts all I want, but when it comes down to the self-esteem moments that doesn\'t block the negative thoughts.

So my situation is that I\'m trying to severe my sexual worth, or sexual confidence from just being my Dick size, and actually appreciate my current size and my other attributes. Knowing that I still want at least one more PMMA round makes it easy for me to fantasize and lust after having a bigger unit, but I need to remind myself that it isn\'t something I need to yearn for or miss out on current things to wait for a \'better future\'. I know I was basically holding out on new sex partners before R1 as I wanted to just wait until after I was bigger, and I don\'t think thats healthy, and thats not something I want to happen again. So, I need to change my perspective and priority of PE in my life, and maybe tone down the size-centric porn I guess.

jlmb wrote:
So my situation is that I\'m trying to severe my sexual worth, or sexual confidence from just being my Dick size, and actually appreciate my current size and my other attributes. Knowing that I still want at least one more PMMA round makes it easy for me to fantasize and lust after having a bigger unit, but I need to remind myself that it isn\'t something I need to yearn for or miss out on current things to wait for a \'better future\'.

Dude took the words right out of my mouth... I mean I sit comfortably at 6.25\" mid Girth x 7.5\"~ long which I KNOW is massive. BUT I still fantasize about another round... I am definitely trying like you said to severe my sexual worth from just being my Dick size, but its hard. Even without porn I imagine in my head having a bigger Dick than my own when I masturbate.

Its weird... pretty much any girl I have sex with now is blown away by the size. 99.9% of the time I can be confident that I will be the biggest they have had or ever will have. I KNOW that what I have is giant... but why do I want more? Sure the porn is one thing... especially with my big Dick fetish I really don\'t watch porn with dudes smaller than me.

I am definitely not bi, but I can totally understand how it would feel (in your head) if your partner was bigger than you.

What is strange is thinking back to when I used to pump from 4.5\" Girth to 5.5\" Girth... I remember thinking that it was HUGE in my hands. Its amazing how your perception changes when that size increase becomes permanent and you get used to it.

I\'m trying to come up with an action plan, with distinct points I can work on, sorta classical behavior modification but instead focusing more on my attitude and perceptions. The perception part is hard as one of my key beliefs is that I hate any sort of delusion, I always prefer and like the truth and to know my place in things, this both helps and hurts my size issue.

For now my biggest thing is to appreciate my current size. Approach PE as a hobby with possible potential positive results, but not something that should be prioritized over other aspects of life. This is tricky as if an manual PE is going to work it does take a lot of time commitment and being consistent. I should appeal to my OCD and productivity interests to stay committed to PE, not a irrational drive or idea that I have to or NEED to be bigger.

I also need to stop being a size queen essentially. Its not all about Cock size, even in the gay community. I should watch more porn with average sized dicks, and try not to long for my next appointment so much.

I wish I didn\'t have to have my rounds so far apart, its dragging this all out. I wanna get a couple more rounds in, hopefully be happy with the result, and forget I ever did it.

Just chiming in - don\'t forget there is SCA (Sexual Compulsive Anonymous). Half my friends belong. It can get incredibly hard to stay sexually sober without support, it is as difficult as meth addiction - so get the advantage of people who are already ahead of you that you can call. It makes a huge difference.

I have relapsed on the porn and sex thing... irronically my sleeping patterns and depression have worsened as well so I think I have somewhat turned to porn and sex to cope with the stress I have been having.

I WILL BE LEAVING THIS SITE FOR 1 MONTH STARTING NEW YEARS DAY.

^ Basically I need to get disconnected from anything penile, porn or sex related for a bit. Wish me luck brothers!